I'm a white man who wants to have the racism talk/discussion. I'm willing to accept my own racism and be called out on it; and happy to engage with any Black person who will not "cancel" me for my views.

If I think about why I resist talking about racism it is for exactly the same reasons you feel happens in your own racism/sexism--that I am not heard.

I am happy to be criticized but not to be silenced; I am happy to listen more than I talk, but when I talk I would like to be acknowledged as a legitimate and whole human being--what this means, fundamentally, is that I am not just here to listen, but also sometimes to criticize the criticizers--to say, "Often I am wrong, but sometimes I am right; often you are right, but sometimes you are wrong."

Are there huge power imbalances between white men and black women? (yes, absolutely) and I have a lot to learn; at the same time as a white man, I am not responsible for EVERYTHING that happened to Black people.

There seems to be a very powerful contingent (see e.g. "White Fragility") that would suggest that as a white man my only job is to be instructed; that the answer to your voice being silenced is for mine to be silenced. That's when it becomes nearly impossible to keep listening.

Professor, sometime poet, working in education and father to a daughter and son. Live in beautiful and sometimes smoky Vancouver, BC.

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