At the risk of overstating this Elle Beau, I think you’ve solved a lot of the problems that women complain about such as emotional labour and women doing more housework etc. I can’t speak to your marriage, of course, and working out how to do polyamory well is a big hurdle, but as your husband said — why worry about whether the laundry is properly folded or there’s dirt under the rim of the toilet when you are not feeling bound by rules. Thanks for this piece — you’ve almost made me into a feminist.

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